Photo: Darin Crofton Photography
If you have spent a lot of time with young children, you are probably aware that they are quite unpredictable. Add some formal attire and a crowd of people staring at you, you could have a crisis on your hands.
Consider ages and personalities
Flower-wearing girls and ring bearers are typically between three and four and eight years old. It may seem adorable to have your 18-month-old niece walking down the aisle, but the younger the girl, the harder it is to control. And don’t just take the children’s ages into account when selecting your young assistants. Some children do not like to be in the limelight, they may prefer to distribute programs or a more discreet honor instead.
Talk to parents in advance
If you have a child in mind for a florist and ring bearer role, discuss it first with their parents. Make sure they are comfortable with the idea and think that your child will be able to handle it. Ask them what they need to help your child be calm and well behaved on the wedding day (maybe have a quiet place for them to nap before the ceremony or have a gift from grandparents to help out), and do your best. that I can to accommodate them.
When you ask a boy to be a part of your wedding, be positive and put him in control. Say something like, “Do you know how Uncle Chad and I are getting married in a few months? We want you to have a special role in our wedding and[explica en qué papel, si es llevar los anillos al altar o tirar los pétalos]. Do you think you can be our great helper? ” Make sure the child’s parents talk about the wedding frequently so the child doesn’t forget!
Let them help you choose the clothes
You want to make sure that the children are relatively comfortable in their wedding attire. So, let them have a say in some aspect of your outfit. While a young child may not be thrilled to wear a suit, he may like it better if he chooses the tie he is wearing.
Practice makes perfect
If you know the song that will play when the little one walks down the hall, send the song to the child’s parents so they can listen to it and practice it at home. We can tell you from experience that this really works – when the child hears the familiar music during the ceremony, they will know that it is time to walk down the aisle!
Give them a task
Whether it’s holding rings or throwing petals, holding a sign, or waving a wand, keeping kids focused on a task will distract them from the people looking at them and the greatness of the moment, and make them feel important and special.
Bribery. Pure bribery.
Like your bridesmaids and groomsmen, your younger attendants should also receive gifts. You may want to give the child their gift before the wedding, or you may want to have him wait for them at the end of the aisle if they need a little motivation.
Make sure they are asleep and fed
Do everything you can to create a safe and comfortable environment for the little ones before the ceremony, even if things are a bit stressful. Try to keep them as scheduled as possible throughout the day by having them eat and nap at their regular times.
Dress them up at the last minute
Children have a fun way of getting their clothes dirty at the most inopportune times. Put the children in their costumes as close to the ceremony time as possible. If they need a snack while dressed for the wedding, keep it as clean as possible (cookies instead of chocolate).
If a little girl doesn’t want to wear her hair crown or wants to take her stuffed animal to the altar, that’s fine. Allow children to walk in groups rather than alone if that makes them feel more comfortable. And if a child refuses to walk at the last minute, don’t force it.
Have an adult waiting
Some children may need a helping hand to lead them down the aisle. Familiar adults should be next to the child both at the beginning and at the end of the hall. Telling a child, “Walk with Mom” is often a good incentive to start walking if he is a little nervous. And make sure the child is seated with a family member who can remove him from the ceremony if he gets too fussy or fussy.
Give them lots of compliments
Attending a wedding is important to a little one, and having you and your spouse thank them for their help will mean a lot. Be sure to take a moment after the ceremony to give the little ones a hug or a high five for a job (hopefully!) Well done!